I often remind my clients of this, particularly those who find it difficult to prioritise their own needs
and instead focus on others — their children, parents, partners, and friends. Their energy and
attention are continuously given away, leaving little for themselves.
Most of us understand the importance of doing what is right for our own wellbeing, yet self-care
often occurs only in moments of crisis — when we feel burnt out or overwhelmed. We might start
eating a little healthier, go to bed earlier, or treat ourselves to a haircut or manicure. But soon
enough, old habits return, and we again neglect our needs, desires, and boundaries.
A common misconception is that self-care requires time or money — luxuries many of us feel we
cannot afford. However, genuine self-care does not need to be expensive or time-consuming. It can
be woven into everyday activities and routines. Self-care is not selfish; it is an act of preservation.
When we nurture our own wellbeing, we become better partners, parents, friends, and colleagues.
Self-care creates a ripple effect — everyone benefits from the improved version of ourselves that
emerges when we are balanced, healthy, and content.
The Six Types of Self-Care
Below are six types of self-care that can help you cultivate awareness of what you do, how you do
it, and why. Simply reminding yourself, “I am doing this for me”, can already shift how you
experience the moment.
- Physical Self-Care
This includes your diet, exercise, sleep, use of substances, and personal hygiene. Most of us know
what is good for our bodies — we just fail to prioritise it. If you are cooking, why not prepare
something nourishing? Choose foods that support your health rather than simply satisfy cravings.
Walk to the shop instead of driving, take a swim, or go for a run. Reduce alcohol, tobacco, and
sugar intake.
Transform everyday habits into mindful acts of care: “This walk is for me. This healthy meal is for
me. Brushing my teeth is my commitment to health.” Small, conscious adjustments to familiar
routines can make a remarkable difference to how you feel. - Mental Self-Care
Our mental health is precious, yet easily disrupted by external pressures. In truth, it is not the events
or people in our lives that dictate how we feel, but our responses to them. Setting healthy
boundaries is a fundamental aspect of mental self-care.
Without boundaries, we risk being taken for granted, overlooked, or undervalued — leading to
frustration, resentment, and emotional exhaustion. Establishing boundaries allows us to be seen,
respected, and heard. It strengthens self-worth and emotional balance. Consider which activities,
people, or commitments enhance your mental wellbeing, and make deliberate choices to nurture
those. - Emotional Self-Care
Every emotion carries a message. Emotional self-care means allowing yourself to feel emotions
fully — without judgement, suppression, or avoidance.
We often ignore or rationalise our feelings until we become emotionally numb. While numbness can
seem protective, it ultimately leads to dissatisfaction, disconnection, and even depression. Instead,
practice awareness: identify what you feel, why you feel it, and then decide whether action is
needed or whether simple acceptance is enough. Honouring your emotions is a vital step toward
healing and wholeness. - Sensual Self-Care
Engage your senses with intention and curiosity. Savour a small piece of fine chocolate; listen to
music that moves you; inhale the scent of coffee, fresh linen, or flowers.
Notice the tactile sensations of daily life — the warmth of water on your skin, the softness of
clothing, the comforting touch of a pet. Observe beauty in nature, art, and faces. Sensual self-care is
about slowing down and truly experiencing life through your senses. It grounds you in the present
moment and enhances your capacity for joy. - Spiritual Self-Care
Spiritual self-care involves connecting to something greater than yourself — whether that be faith,
nature, community, creativity, or mindfulness.
For some, this may mean prayer, meditation, or time spent in a place of worship. For others, it may
be found in art, music, the vastness of the ocean, or the quiet wonder of the night sky. Even a few
minutes of contemplation can restore a sense of peace and perspective. Awe connects us — to
others, to life, and to ourselves. - Adventurous Self-Care
This form of self-care invites you to step outside your comfort zone. Adventure need not be extreme
— it can be as simple as trying a new recipe, exploring a different walking route, or learning a skill.
Challenge yourself in small ways: order a new dish, attend a class, or travel somewhere unfamiliar.
Every time you achieve something new, you build confidence, stimulate growth, and reinforce a
positive sense of self. The reward is not only excitement but also empowerment.
Integrating Self-Care into Everyday Life
Each act of self-care triggers small bursts of dopamine and serotonin — the body’s natural “feelgood”
chemicals. These moments accumulate, improving mood, focus, and resilience.
Start small. Choose one area of self-care to focus on each day. Over time, these practices will begin
to overlap naturally — a hot shower, for example, can be physical, sensual, and even adventurous
self-care all at once.
Forming new habits takes time, so create a simple plan. Note the changes you want to make and the
actions you can take today. Remember: self-care is not indulgence — it is essential maintenance.
You cannot pour from an empty cup.
Taking care of yourself is not selfish. It is the foundation for a life that feels balanced, grounded,
and deeply content.